Your friend is late all the time. She’s always missing appointments and making excuses. She’s totally lost interest in going out, and she seems down in the dumps all the time. It’s getting so you hardly remember a time when things weren’t like this. You’ve tried everything: arguing, begging, even threats. Things have gotten so […]
Your friend is late all the time. She’s always missing appointments and making excuses. She’s totally lost interest in going out, and she seems down in the dumps all the time. It’s getting so you hardly remember a time when things weren’t like this. You’ve tried everything: arguing, begging, even threats. Things have gotten so bad, you’ve even begun to wonder if something might be wrong with YOU. If you have a friend whose life is totally unmanageable because she’s lost control of her hair, it’s not your fault. And you’re not alone. The hair professionals at Face Station share your concerns.
When a person has problem hair, everyone suffers with them,” says David Groshen, owner of Davd Groshen Salon and creator of the David Groshen line of haircare products. “Friends can feel alienated; family members become frustrated and angry.”
Problem hair is a serious condition that affects millions of Americans. Symptoms can include unflattering cuts or color, hairstyles that are extremely difficult to maintain, or the simple heartbreak of not being able to communicate to one’s stylist what kind of hair one wants. And worst of all, problem hair can create such a distorted sense of reality that the victim does not even realize how out of control her life really is.
Here are some warning signs that someone you know may be in hair hell:
- Your friend is tired all the time; when pressed, she confesses that she has to get up at 5 a.m. every day in order to do her hair.
- You’re supposed to meet up with your sister for a movie. She’s so late that you miss the beginning of the film. When you ask for an explanation, she says, “I’m sorry, but I just couldn’t get my hair to look right.”
- Your mother is buying an awful lot of hats
- Your best friend confesses that she feels like her life is just one endless “bad hair day.”
- Your daughter tells you that she feels like a blonde trapped in a brunette’s body.
The most effective strategy for dealing with a friend or loved one who is suffering from unmanageable hair is to orchestrate a “hair intervention.” This is a process by which friends and family members, with the help of the caring and well-trained professionals at David Groshen Salon, confront the victim about her hair-related problems and encourage her to accept the treatment she so desperately needs.
“It’s important to keep an open mind about the intervention process,” says Vincent Casolaro, a family therapist and experienced interventionist, “it is a collective effort, not an ‘us against her’ situation. An intervention has to be caring, loving, and supportive in order to be successful.”
By coming forward and saying, “Hey, something’s wrong here,” you’ve already taken the first step. But, you ask, where do I go from here? Before you can initiate an intervention, you need to make sure that you have the support YOU need. Pay a visit to Face Station and discuss your friend’s problem with David Groshen’s superbly-trained stylists and staff. While you’re there, try getting a makeover or a manicure to lift your spirits. Only once you’re feeling strong and satisfied with your appearance can you reach out to your friend in need.
The next step is to give your friend one of David Groshen’s Hair Intervention Kits. Each kit contains all the products and tools your friend needs to get her hair—and her life—under control.
The kits are available in three formats: for fine, wavy, and coarse hair types.
- Fine Hair - Includes David Groshen’s video guide “How To Get the ‘Salon Blown-Out Look’ at Home” for fine hair, a sectioning/blow-drying chart, David Groshen’s leave-in conditioner with keratin protein (8 oz.), David Groshen’s hair polish (1 oz.), David Groshen’s glossifier (2 oz.), 4 hair clips, a handmade tortoise-shell comb, a mixed natural boar bristle brush, and two educational booklets, created by David Groshen: “Seven Ways to Get Exactly What You Want From Your Hairdresser” and “Seven Methods of Haircolor.”
- Wavy Hair - Includes David Groshen’s video for wavy hair, David Groshen’s relaxing and smoothing balm (8 oz.) as well as all the products and tools listed in the Fine Hair kit above.
- Coarse Hair - Includes David Groshen’s video for coarse hair, David Groshen’s relaxing and smoothing balm with leave-in conditioner, as well as all the products and tools listed in the Fine Hair kit above with the exception of David Groshen’s leave-in conditioner with keratin protein.
Finally, make an appointment for you and your friend to go to David Groshen Salon together. Remember, for an intervention to work, you must create a supportive and caring environment, and David Groshen’s highly trained stylists and assistants strive to do just that.
As you and your friend embark on the road to recovery, you must agree never to blame each other. Instead, you should congratulate each other that you are dealing with the problem. “When people go to get their hair cut or colored, that takes some courage,” says Casolaro. “Your friend should be praised for agreeing to deal with the situation; you both should.”
Today, the intervention isn’t just focused on the individual: The entire family must become involved if the process is to be successful. To complete the healing process, the problem hair sufferer and those she is closest too should make a concerted effort to come into David Groshen Salon. David’s talented staff will teach you the techniques and provide you with the products you will need so that you can all achieve the look you want at home, even when there is no stylist there to help. Only through the support of loved ones can a person be freed from hair hell, leading to higher self-esteem and a sense of control over one’s life that goes beyond the walls of the salon.
Remember, problem hair is not the end of the line. There is a cure. And confronting the problem is the first step.